By Angel Tong and Nick Wong

Dear single male,

So you’ve recently heard from your friend that he/she just started dating this amazing person whom they met on Tinder and you think if they can do it so can you; so you download the Tinder app and you click on this lit icon. You spend your first few hours swiping, swiping, matching, and miraculously one of them seems to like you and has agreed to go out for a “Tinder” date. It’s the same thing as any other regular date, but the difference is that you guys have never met before, so there’s that whole aura of mystery looming above your heads.

Take What She Likes Into Consideration

For the love of God, do not invite this girl to a mamak, you like her and want to impress her. If you can’t afford to take her to a proper restaurant, you shouldn’t be looking for dates in the first place. I’m not saying some girls wouldn’t be okay with it, but just don’t. You would want to be in a place in your life where you could sustain yourself (ie. have a job and can support yourself) before you think of dating anyone; much less being in a relationship with them. I’m also not saying you need to burn a hole through your wallet impressing her, but be aware of what you are capable of spending / doing. (For interesting ideas for budget dates, check out Tinder Date Survival Guide: Budget Dates)

It’s important that you both find a place where both of you would enjoy. This can be achieved easily by discussing with her beforehand on Tinder (or whichever social media you guys have progressed to) on what her favourite cuisines and dishes are; then do some research on Google, it doesn’t take too long trust me, especially if you live in Malaysia, food is our forte. By doing so, you show her you take her words into consideration and by researching/ asking friends for recommendations it shows her you put in a lot of thought into the date.

Lazada Malaysia

Be A Gentleman

Now, I always recommend to either pick her up (if she’s agreeable to it) but since it’s her first time meeting an essentially complete stranger, usually she would choose to travel herself, it’s completely normal and smart. Always try to be slightly earlier or at least on time as it sends a better impression when you arrive before your date. Macam interview kan? Lol jk. As Malaysian as we are, even if it’s just a casual date, girls want a guy who can ‘lead’ which means just plan a rough date in your head and if the girl comes to the date with the mentality of “what are we doing today?” just start off with lunch of dinner (this also gives you a small window to escape incase this person was not what you expected and you NEED to get out of there) and proceed with your plans (assuming she’s up for everything)

Lazada Indonesia

It’s Not Just A Man’s World

Skipping ahead to when the bill comes, I’m very old-fashioned so I believe the guy should always pay for the first date. But some girls are more modern and don’t like that, so if she insists on paying or splitting the bill, don’t argue too much and accept graciously, it’s good manners. Anyway I’m not going to tell you how to impress a girl during the date, that’s all on you my friend, this isn’t a “How to definitely impress your Tinder date” nonsense advice, more like “How NOT to ruin your Tinder date”. However you can check out the girl’s section on what not to do during a Tinder date and maybe that will give you a better idea. (Tip: Pull out her chair for her, brownie points!)

It’s The Little Things

In conclusion, it’s the little things that are the most important. Like complimenting her on how she looks when you see her (shows you appreciate all the effort she took to look good), pulling out her chair for her, listening to her speak, giving genuine insights (I mean, she IS going on this date to get to know you), linking conversations to topics previously discussed (on Tinder, social media or during the date) to show you keep what she says in mind and you’re slightly playful with all she tells you. Hopefully this article gave you a general idea of what to expect and what not to do on a first date. As your relationship progresses, your date nights will also likewise evolve. Of course everyone’s salaries and budgets are different, so you should discuss this early on at some point as your relationship progresses. Maybe you could take her out for dinner once or twice a week and she could cook for you sometimes or just bring over pizza once in a while (hasn’t failed me yet)!

The Long Goodbye

If you've been following us for a while now, you'll know The Level hasn't been what it's supposed to be for a few months now. There's a very simple reason for that - we're pulling the plug, folks. There's no easy way to eulogize your work, let alone an...

Upfront X Original Matters Presents: Unknown Mortal Orchestra Live in KL

By Salihin Rizal This is for all of you indie-psych heads! Made possible by Upfront and Original Matters, Unknown Mortal Orchestra will be holding their first ever KL live show this 25th of September at The Bee, Publika. Haven’t heard of them? Well it’s...

Interviewing Matt Preston of MasterChef Australia About Crispy Rendang

We recently had a brief talk with one of the judges on MasterChef Australia season 10 - Matt Preston. An award-winning food journalist, critic, and TV personality, Matt Preston has appeared on the series at least seven times. He also appears...

Tiffin Food Court is back!

The magical Tiffin Food Court that got prematurely halted last year over concerns about the venue is coming back, with an extended range of vendors and a brand new home! Starting this 30th August 2018, Tiffin Food Court will return at the military...

PMC drops the 1MDB Yacht Club Collection

by Maruxa Lynd You don’t have to be as rich as Jho Low to afford a yacht! Well, at least you can get a shirt with a yacht on it! PMC’s new collection features one of Jho Low’s prized possessions, his super yacht called the Equanimity. Ever since he has...

Celebrate Malaysia with Cadbury Kopi C & Datuk Lat!

By Salihin Rizal Famous for its huge bars of chocolate and the milky-ness thereof, Cadbury Dairy Milk launched its first ever localised limited-edition flavour made exlusively for Malaysians, that is the Cadbury Dairy Milk Kopi C! But wait, it gets better...

#JOMMALAYSIA: An All-Malaysian Carnival

By Salihin Rizal Hari Kebangsaan is just around the corner and I’m sure Patriotic Malaysians are feeling the ‘merdeka’ vibes already- I know I am! It is a new Malaysia, reform is in the process and back in May, Malaysians has experienced the power of...

Lawalah Familia Collaborates with Boston’s N.B.S for Lawalah Vets EP

by Maruxa Lynd Lawalah Vets EP Launch Party at Six Bangsar was a wild one filled with hard beats, fire bars and energetic crowd. The new songs performed for the first time by Lawalah Familia during the launch were greeted with overwhelming enthusiasm by...

NERDUNIT ‘s “Mindf*cked Generation” debuts in KLFW RTW

by Maruxa Lynd USA founded streetwear brand Nerdunit by Ronald Chew debuted its latest collection at Kuala Lumpur Fashion Week RTW 2018 last Friday,12th August in Pavilion KL. Boldly named “Mindf*cked Generation”, the latest ready–to–wear collection aims...

Comedy Central’s “Stand – Up,Asia!” is back for Season 3!

by Maruxa Lynd Returning with a 10-part series to air every Tuesday starting 14 August   Three cheers for Comedy Central's original series, Comedy Central Stand-Up, Asia!, cause it’s back for its third season, premiering this 14th of August! The series,...